This article is based on the episode, Tuline Kinaci: Tantra, authenticity, and eye contact
Tuline Kinaci is an all-around mover, a dancer, rock climber, traceusse and earned her degree in athletic training. In addition to her movement practices, Tuline is a certified authentic Tantra instructor, teaching holistic healing of body, mind, spirit and sex. Tuline considers herself a sex activist and is the founder of LoveCraft, a sexual coaching and empowerment collective.
Tantra was the obvious place to begin since we were surely going to end up talking about tantric sex. My fear was that most people’s—myself included—knowledge of Tantra would be something to do with the artist, Sting. We immediately agreed that leaving the world only knowing about “men in linen pants” would be a disservice.
Tantra means, literally, to weave light and sound with form, the light being visualizations of your chakras in your body, sound being chants that you’re making, and then the form being your body, your physical body. That’s it, in a nutshell. The way that often looks is meditating. The way a lot of people do that is they’ll meditate and then have sex; they’ll meditate during sex; they’ll meditate on their own without any sex. Yeah, that’s kind of that, which means nothing, right? It’s like a, ‘Cool, and then what?’ which is what got me into having a coach.~ Tuline Kinaci from, ~4’40”
…and of course, the final question: Three words to describe your practice?
Back in 2017, when I sat down to record the first episode, I had prepared some questions. But I have no idea why I said, “…and of course, the final question…”
After recording the episode, Charlotte Miles: Motivation, emotional recovery, and purpose, Charlotte took the time to write this accompanying article after recording her episode, to share more of her thoughts on suicide.
I Am NOT Afraid to Talk About Suicide
Shame is a powerful thing. It can turn the strongest of us to blubbering wrecks, it can freeze our bodies to the spot, cause us to retreat in on ourselves, to grow small and even act completely in opposition to our nature. Shame silences us. It convinces us that we’re alone and this alienation only drives us deeper into solitude.
We asked Jesse Danger some follow up questions, that we didn’t have the chance to discuss in his episode, Jesse Danger: Systems thinking, game design, and novelty. Here are the questions, and his responses to them:
How do you stay motivated, and how do you convert inspiration into motivation?
I think that around motivation, I’m grateful for whenever it shows up on its own. I find especially when I’m unmotivated, the best thing for me is sticking to my routine. I really subscribe to this idea from The War of Art that inspiration strikes every day at 9:00 AM. This idea that you have to go to work every day, even if you identify as an artist, maybe especially if you identify as an artist, and you can set up the conditions for exploration and growth, but you still have to jump in and do it. And I’ve found through every single training session that no matter how I feel before the session, afterwards, I’m happy to have done it. I’ve done something new, I’ve challenged myself, and I’ve become stronger. So anytime that I can jump in and do the damn thing, in training, or in work and in life, I feel better for it, and that really helps me to stop from seeing motivation as some fleeting, beautiful sunlight through the lens, and see it as something that I can control and participate in.